Today I discovered a wonderful blog directed at the family members and friends of writers. The advice offered by Rachelle Gardner comes from long years of experience as a literary agent. Here's just a part of what she has to say:
Here are a few “don’ts” for you:
• Don’t belittle or demean your writer-in-residence for their dreams.
• Don’t assume “success” must be correlated with income.
• Don’t ever refer to their writing time as “wasted” and don’t think about how much money they could be making if they spent the time differently. This is who they are.
• Don’t say “have you finished that book yet?” Instead, say things like, “did you have a good day of writing?”
Support your writer and show you care by doing things that are meaningful to them.
You could do things like:
• Help them to create a special writing space inside your home, whether it’s an entire room or just a corner somewhere.
• Help them create time for their writing, and encourage all members of the family to respect that time.
• Ask them about their writing, or why they like to write, or what their hopes and dreams are for their writing.
• Get them little writing-related gifts that show you’re taking them seriously: books about writing, new desk or computer supplies.
• Give them a gift certificate for something like a weekend “writing retreat” at a local hotel; or a few days away at a writer’s conference.
• Ask them how you can help support their writing.
Most writers are smart, passionate, interesting, driven, and eager to share their words with the world. (And yes, okay, a little moody and possibly bi-polar.) Enjoy the fact that they have depth and ambition, and something to say!
And definitely make sure you have your own hobbies, passions and interests. You’re going to need them.
To read the whole article, visit Rachelle Gardner at http://www.rachellegardner.com/2012/04/for-the-ones-you-love/